I disagree with Zues about timing because by the time the actual divorce was complete it was almost a non-event. It was important to me not to date until I was at THAT point at least... But even still, dating was a huge shock to my system. I'm wondering if the distance isn't a bit of the appeal at the moment? Gives you the chance to dip your toe in the water of a Good Thing without the shock of immersion in the relationship? Something to consider.
Thanks Maybell! I agree about the timing. At this point we've been S for 3 years and we rarely speak anymore. Everything should be complete by this summer. I felt like it was a good year and a half to 2 years after S before I felt ready to even talk to females (in that way). I also didn't want to introduce a new girl into the equation. I made sure to explain my situation to this new girl the other night. I wasn't sure what all she had heard from my brother, so wanted to be up front and honest from the start. She was already aware and ok with it.
The long distance is an interesting dynamic. I think it takes a lot more effort and commitment earlier than a relationship with someone who lives nearby. I'm not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing for this first relationship? So instead of 'want to hang out this weekend?', it's setting aside dedicated time to visit and learn about each other at the same time.
I do plan on having the kid talk at some point, but will probably wait until post beach vacation. We're both looking forward to spending some quality time together. We've joked that most people go to dinner on a first date. We're going to the beach and both of us are completely comfortable with it.
