I'm sorry focus and can I say I think you're doing so well. There's a little mind reading going on here, so be careful with this track. From what you post, yes he may not have had clear boundaries with OPs - how far that went (if anywhere at all) may not be something you ever get an answer to.

I don't think your H would have stopped loving you in 2007 and stayed for a further 8 years though......JMHO of course. However, it can be too easy to feel that we and the R just didn't matter to them, and I don't think that's true.

If you're having a low day, that calls for some extreme self care....hopefully your day will improve and tomorrow will be better too....

Take care Sweetie xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus