Yes maybe sister put her up to setting up the account because she wants to help her out of her miserable situation.

Maybe she is trying to get you to make a move. Maybe maybe maybe. It could mean a lot of things.

But let's just say she did set up the account to try meet someone. Or viewing the lack of activity more likely to take a peek at what is out there. Anyway let's say she is looking. I know several people who have gone on such sites and for the mostpart it shows them moreso that the options are not as great as first imagined. So even if she does date it could actually help her realise maybe the grass was fairly green with you after all.

I think it will drive you crazy to focus on her, what she is doing and trying to figure out why. Assume it isn't logical and you cannot figure it out so use your energy on other stuff.

You are still standing for your M after all this time.Many would have given up. That shows strength of character.

Best wishes.


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together