BnB, sorry, but I think both you and OW are being taken advantage of. I don't know if he feels guilty or not. It's not just a "guy thing", there are women who also behave this way - they will take what comes along, especially if it is just handed to them. I would think a stronger position for you would be that you will not give him any more until he ends it with OW. Make him choose - don't make it possible for him to "have it all". That doesn't give YOU any power!
