I do get it, same thing with my W. After coming down on my W , i decided any family moment is a good moment. Its about the kids and i get to show the her the man that i am.
Most of the time at these things i am being more social and chatting with other people and if its my son's event make sure hes having the greatest time of his life. I am determined to have a good time and usually end up not spending the time with W at these family events.
Im not ignoring her, if she hangs around me or speaks to me im pleasant and genuine keeping in good mood. I just dont prioritize her.
Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs 23Mar16-BD 9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss. 27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM. 14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation. 24May17-Divorced.