I've been seeing someone since last Thanksgiving. I've had a lot of the same worries you expressed here. I agree with everything Sunny said.
I disagree with Zues about timing because by the time the actual divorce was complete it was almost a non-event. It was important to me not to date until I was at THAT point at least... But even still, dating was a huge shock to my system. I'm wondering if the distance isn't a bit of the appeal at the moment? Gives you the chance to dip your toe in the water of a Good Thing without the shock of immersion in the relationship? Something to consider.
I spent a lot of time worrying if my (not so) New Guy was a rebound. I look and look, and while he's not perfect (nor am I) he is all the things I had wished for in my life. So far. I created a lot of drama and angst looking for red flags and worrying about timing. I could have just been enjoying the moments and relaxing with someone I don't get to spend nearly enough time with.
My advice: Ray hard not to overthink it. Enjoy it for what it is. If, in six months, or nine months, or a year, you look up, and you're deeper into one another's lives and she is home for you, then you'll know. If something happens along the way, and it doesn't play out that way, youll know that too.
Have fun, Tar! It will be interesting to see it all play out!!
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
