...the start of something: papers?

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Man i got mine via email also. 20 days to respond. I'm going the full 20 days.

yeah, 20 days it is. I don't think I'll base my timeline/signing entirely on that though. If I hold back, it may be seen as controlling/fighting the decision. I meet with my L on Wed of next week. I already fwd her all the paperwork I received, so I'll just take it as it comes and see how I'm feeling about it then.

I would still clear of any talk with W at the moment
If she pushes just ask her to respect your wishes.

Thanks cbt. I know the drill, she's so dayum manipulative. I need to just keep my cool and execute. Execute what? I'm not entirely sure if my "plan" changes at this point or not. Right now, I'm thinking now, there is still plenty of time for me to do my own thing.

Heed this advice it is very good.
Do not mix emotions with divorce proceedings. View it as business and taking care of the family. That first meeting with my L was so gross, but after I removed the emotion it has not been bad, cept the bill when it comes in, but that's a whole other story.

Hang in there brother. It sux, but you will survive it. Keep a level head.

I plan on taking that advice for sure. One thing about my sitch is no kids, so no custody battle nonsense. I would think I could keep our attorney costs under the retainer, as long as she doesn't try some crazy chit.

And you're right, it does suck. I've posted on this thread I don't know how many times, but I've wrote and thought about it 100x more. I think I could/would be happier without her, she's a very difficult person to handle(not a single person who knows her well would disagree), but I love her like crazy. I don't want this to end, but I can't fight her on the decision. It's just another phase.