My Wife Walked Out

[Coconut]

Coconut, thank you for the support. It means a lot.

I sure don't feel strong. I feel like I'm one moment, one picture, one situation away from having another crying fit. Nothing is final now, but I'm losing my desire to reach out because I'm looking at the long term damage of what her selfishness will do. I look at her and see the woman I love, the woman I'm attracted to, the woman I had a baby with. She sounds like the woman I love. But her decisions are insane and she's completely irrational. Maybe I'm too close, and you're right.

I so badly want to have a sit down with her and go over everything, but she'll have to get smacked by SOMETHING so her bullheadedness goes away. But I have a feeling that it won't happen by July and she'll just want to discuss how we split preschool costs, car insurance payments and the like. I miss the woman I love, but I don't like the pod that has taken over her body, mind and soul.

Your welcome, I'm by no means a vet, but I've been through the hurt and know what it feels like, so it makes me happy to hear that I was able to help in anyway.

You say you don't feel strong because your one memory away from crying, but crying doesn't make you weak, if you didn't feel the emotions you'd be a psychopath. Your strong because you don't "need" to talk to her about everything, that's where I'm weak, I feel like I needed to talk to her every time I was feeling anything, two months in and I still struggle with dealing with my emotions myself.

I hope you get the choice of taking her back one day, and if you decide you want to, that's when you will sit down and go over everything. Even though you say you want that, be careful what you wish for, because that process isn't any easier. I would suggest to anyone who reaches that point to really consider what you want to know before you start asking..

There is a lot of good information available on types of questions that can be very helpful in healing, and a lot of cautions about asking for specifics, because knowing specifics can do a lot more harm than good. I kinda look at it like I don't want to know of any specifics about her past R before marriage, and I don't know that I would want to know any specifics about the A either. But I'm getting ahead of myself, just know that most M that have an A occur do survive, so there is a lot of hope.