And awhile back I mentioned trouble with baby talk. Well, it's really bad now, and d is starting too.
the other reason this sometimes happens is regression due to stressful situations. Might not be a bad idea to check with the lawyer about a good children's therapist. They may need a safe place to vent.
As for the stuff W does. I know it's hard to detach from her and the other aspects of what was your extended family. But trust me, it won't be helpful for you to talk to her about them. From the sounds of it, she won't likely (for a long time anyway) be that kind of ex that you can be friends or even friendly with. Maybe things will change, but...
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."