Hi Pink, that's interesting that friends can see your XH is rather lost. I had that too from a friend recently. She was a good friend to us both when we S and tried to tread that difficult path of staying in touch with us both. But when I saw her the other day, she said XH hasn't contacted her for months. I can tell she thinks it's pretty strange that he would just nuke the friendship..stuff like this is telling I think.

I agree with others, it sounds as though you are doing well in all circumstances. It may be no bad thing to have a little distance with your XH - and perhaps try to see this as healing time for you. I guess he will decide what he will WRT his living arrangements. They sound rather like the kind of house share arrangements you get with recent graduates. I hope it will be a better environment for him having the kids over perhaps?

None of it is easy, but you are moving forward and learning and I think that is as much as we can all ask of ourselves.

Love and hugs to you Sweetie xx

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus