Hi Huddy, no offence taken at all. And I agree, it is becoming easier to drop the rope now that our D is finalised. I didn't find it easy in the earlier stages either...
I don't always think snooping is a poor idea. It can be helpful to get a feel for where things are at sometimes and that can inform your approach. To me that's Intel...
As for what your W is up to. You seem to be suggesting she would intentionally leave things open in order to pull your chain. That may well not be the case at all and is mind-reading on your part I think. It's entirely possible IMHO that she's carelessly left things open and isn't seeking to provoke a reaction.
I would also guess that she may not see this as infidelity, given your S. For me, I didn't want to be 'married and dating' but many people do date after S.
It does give you a feel for where she's 'at' just now anyway. Whether that is a deal breaker for you is up to you of course. but it's always worth letting a new piece of information settle for a little while before responding in any way.
Hope this helps Huddy and glad you're feeling better than you were at the weekend. Truly, you're doing very well in tough circumstances x
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
