What Should I be doing (5)

[Coconut]

Just curious what you decided about posting an apology to the FF chat board?

p.s. Never be afraid to admit when you mess up. Everyone does it, sooner or later. There is a reason for mess ups in our life. One is to keep us humble. Two, to remember we are human being with faults. Three, so we won't be so judgemental toward others. Four, so we won't get too confident or lazy and stop trying to be better. Five, so others won't detest us for being perfect.

I'm not sure how I confused everyone, but it was not a letter to post in the chat, it was a hand written letter I was writing directly to the station captain. He told my wife that only a few fire fighters saw the message and he was going to speak to them directly about not gossiping, and told my W that private business needs to stay out of the firehouse. That they don't do drama.

He also told her that he understands the struggles marriages incur due to the rigorous schedule of the academy, that he doesn't want her to quit, but that he also doesn't want her to divorce just to stay. The captain even offered to have a station barbecue so that all the spouses could come and meet the firefighters at the station and see how the dynamics are. Basically he showed empathy to both her and I, and offered to do what he could to help out.

Ps- I've messed up so much that the fear of telling has kind of numbed now