Dig ... this is a solid list, and the best part nothing in it is about your W.
One thing I would recommend ... it truly helped me and has been used here by a few. Make up 3 lists, 10 lines. List #1 is a list of things you like about yourself. List #2, 10 things you do not like about yourself ... careful here, not 10 complaints she has ... 10 things you truly want to change about yourself (maybe losing 10 lbs, not losing your cool as often etc) List #3 10 things you admire in other men. Type this list out/print a couple copies, now that she is almost out of the house place it in a spot you will see it early in the morning. Have another handy .. maybe at work, where ever .. I had reminders on my phone about 2 times a day to review it .... whatever works for you. So once you have the list .... review one thing you like about yourself .. focus on that and practice it that week (do it more) ... now look at list #2, take one and replace it with something from list 3 .... do that for that week ... the next week move to another item on the list and repeat. These things are deeply personal to you, its a way to improve yourself continually.
Example ... I did not care how with all the stuff going on I was becoming quick to get upset, so I circled 'Temper" and began going to church every Sunday, this was for me ... no one else ... one by one I would work on these things, sometimes revisiting ones I felt I needed more effort in, the results amazed me.
That's a great idea and definitely something I'll look into. In a weird way, I'm looking forward to her leaving, because this is another step forward. There is nothing that will happen with us being in the same residence right now.
Originally Posted By: CaliGuy
If you have commited I get its to late to back out, so try and get through the move with indifference in mind, not happy, not upset .. just a job that needs to be done. This is her choice, you may not agree with it but you can tell her by your actions you respect her decisions. She will have doubts I suspect and will test you throughout .... do not react, if you feel yourself getting to a point you may act out .. take a walk. And you are right ... what you do is no longer her concern, her choices have consequences and you no longer need to answer to her for GAL ... no need to be a jerk just be matter of fact.
Exactly, she tried steering the conversation into "you're being weird, and I'm just curious cuz I'm nosy, not cuz I care, bla bla". I wasn't caving, and was as nice as I could be when you're in that situation.
