Why is it so easy for these WAWs/WAHs to walk away and destroy a family? Lack of character, lack of morals, lack of feeling... I just don't get how someone can walk away from a family with young children and think that is in their best interests.
My children were grown with their own families when I was a WW. I would say, based on my experience, it's at least a temporary lacking in those things you listed. Maybe for some, it returns......I just don't know if that's true in every case.
It all came to hit home with me, a short time later when my DIL told my son that she needed some space. He thought he'd be gone for the weekend and then go home. However, she had been in an PA and was moving her AP into the home.
I saw the terrible pain and shock that my son and his children went through b/c of her selfishness. My own guilt for my WW time, came back to haunt me. It was as bad as a death. It hurt all of us so much. I don't know if her character and morals will ever resume, but I'm pretty sure her feelings for my son won't. She has long moved on with OM, and she continues to put her desires above anyone else.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
