Don't know if I'd call it "super" or not but I do consider my m to be a success. Yes I still complain about some things but all in all my h and I are in a much better place than we were a year ago. Just two years ago at this time h decided he couldn't "do this anymore" he loved me but wasn't "in love" with me, moved out, wanted a divorce, we only saw or spoke to eachother when he'd come to visit the kids and even then it was often just in passing, he'd arive and I'd depart comming home when he'd put the kids in bed then he'd go off to his apartment. He has been home now for over a year and though he's not as sexual as I think I might like there is no doubt he loves me and isn't going anywhere again.
Before he left I'd complain a lot about the ssm issue as most of you know that's a seemingly endless battle. While he was gone I spent alot of time on this bb (in other forums) and thinking about m and relationships in general. I heard and read about the five love languages and all about expectations and assumptions. I realized that though h wasn't always showing his love for me in ways that I easily felt or appreciated he always did show me in his own ways. It still isn't always easy for me to appreciate or hear his way but it's there and the more attention I pay the more I notice.
I don't know if our libido's will ever totally match but I've realized that there is much more to a marriage than sex.
but for "super success" story status on this thread I suppose I should say that I got me some this weekend and didn't have to initiate at all.
