When reading the book, be sure you pay particular attention to "who" the advice is directed.

IMHO, the book's overall message is to tell the reader that divorce is not the remedy to the problems in the MR.

Also notice where MWD will state that the advice is for the couple where both spouses are willing to save the M. I think many people overlook that point. All in all, the book should be encouraging and a great backup source to look at what you need to do.

If you have not read the links in Cadet's homework, you are missing a hunk of advice and "how-to".

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!