It does hit home with me. For the most part, I do what I do because I want to. It's who I am. At first it was brainless for me to drive there all the time. He works a lot, so I thought I was helping out and I there was benefit to me, I got to see him. Then I realized, ummmm, I work , go to school, have kid almost all the time..... I'm pretty darned busy too. I still don't mind giving so much if a little is received and appreciated. Not abused.
But in the next breath I do too much out of fear of losing someone. That's way unhealthy.
But you and I, I think are genuinely kind hearted with good intentions. And perhaps some insecurities.
We will get there. I sometimes envy people who haven't been through all the crap and view R's as a fairly simple thing. Too much is tied to them for me now.
