Some days are better than others

[EDF]

Yesterday WW bought her replacement car. I tried to stay as hands-off as possible; didn't go along to the dealer. Responded to a couple direct questions but otherwise bounced it back to her to do stuff like checking on loan rates. Had started contacting her a couple times, writing an email with the "True Market Value" to help her negotiating, or texting her to wish her luck, but I aborted those.

After she bought the car, at night she told me I should call the insurance to get her car switched and figure out coverage. I told her it would probably be better for her to do it since she knows the car and loan details. She said she thinks they already have that info. I said "Great, then it should be a quick call for you!". She was not amused... muttered "thanks for nothing." I tried to handle it how I might a child throwing a tantrum... stayed upbeat and chuckled and said "Oh, you'll handle it fine."

I felt I handled the car situation decent, but it feels so wrong. I get the theory - I know DBing is supposed to be counter-intuitive - but it's hard to fight years of conditioning. My gut feeling when she said "thanks for nothing" was "oh [censored], I went too far". I wanted badly to reverse course... smooth things over... had a strong urge to explain more why it made sense for her to do it, or rationalize why it made more sense for me to just take care of insurance since I always have. Managed to just keep my mouth shut.

Yes, I'm a mouse in a lot of areas. Yes, I'm reading the nice guy book. Every Day Forward.