Good restraint! It's pointless and honestly, won't make you feel any better. I like to remember that we're all broken people, in one way or another, and most people don't want to maliciously hurt anyone else...they just do and often don't know why either. In my last R I had to recognize that she just couldn't change the things I needed her to change...and I couldn't keep going the way things were. I found it hard not to jump whenever she needed something and exhausted myself. Is it loving to exhaust yourself so that you can't be who you really want to be? Nope. Is it loving to be a doormat? Nope. There's a place for pleasing and we all need to do it but it can also be destructive to a relationship. We give the other party the idea that we like doing for them and compromising when inside it takes it's toll...not good, not honest. Anyway,enough of my babbling, hang in there...I'm thinking of switching for doormat to car mat just to change things up a bit. You did good!
