Just skimmed through some of your posts. I'm really sorry you are still dealing with this. Coming here and venting does not mean you are not rising above it. As humans we can only take so much.
I don't see (maybe I missed it) what you want at this point, in regard to saving your marriage. Regardless I don't think your actions have to change. The most important thing you need to do is take care of yourself (kids is a given but you can only do that if you're taking care of you.) Don't do or say anything to your W that you will regret, be the person you want to be. That does not mean giving in or doing things you don't want to, simply in your interactions be cordial (as cordial as you can given the circumstances).
I hope you have a good lawyer, let them handle all the other bs. I don't know what the laws are in your state but I can't imagine she can get what she's asking for. In most states it's not whether the S has a job but if they are capable of working, DO NOT GIVE IN TO HER DEMANDS (my brother did and was left with little just because he wanted it over) let a judge decide if it comes to that. The criminal stuff is a whole different level, don't let her get away with that!
What makes you (independently) happy? Unfortunately we can't depend on friends, they want to help but everybody is living their own lives and it is easier said than done. Find things you can do on your own, with your kids or make new friends that don't know anything about your W or sitch.
You have been strong for a long time, I know you have it in you to keep Rising ABOVE IT!
((())) losty!
Me-44 (45) H- 50 (51) M-'96
S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)
BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas) home Oct(sep rooms) (EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed) insists wants D through July 2015 no more talk of D since
