I was proud of myself for having patience and succeeding at a goal last night. I definitely wanted to check phone bill.
cbt - Hey man, This is awesome. Your familiar with my thread, so I can directly relate. I was snooping a lot, watching the joint checking, watching the phone bill, and there is something very satisfying about killing that habit. In the very instant it's bothering you, it's based on want/fear/control, and we know those are not feelings we should be acting on.
I hope you find the same gratitude I've find in NOT snooping. What it comes down to, is that our WW's are going to what they are going to do, whether we know about it or not. My W actually started calling OM (EA) 5x more once I confronted her about the phone bill evidence. Probably just to make me mad, and it worked... for about 3 days. I haven't looked at the bill since last thursday (4 days, wow? haha), and I haven't regretted it one bit.
cbt, it only causes more hurt to us in a time where the last thing we need is more hurt, and more fuel to feed our angry, which we are trying to contain.
