Out of In house S- Start of two homes (10)

[vise82]

Hey,

I am all moved out, and into the new house. Old house is sold.
The 50/50 parenting schedule is in effect now.
I have to hire a babysitter to help me in the mornings I have the kids to get them to school for two days a week. And W needs care for the kids for one day a week because she works late.

This is something we used to do between us.

W helped out me and I helped out her for the move. We did end up sharing a mover. I took stuff to her place and she helped me move stuff into my place. her parents stayed at her house to unpack stuff.

W took what she wanted and I was left with everything else to sort out. Pictures came to my house, boxes of papers came to my house, odds and ends came to my house.

It was a tight schedule and I pulled an all nighter to move and pack things at the old place just to have W tell me she has plans at night for day two of the move. She had a sleep over at her best friends house. Not sure if the best man from the wedding was there as her fiend has been trying to get the two to have sex for a while now.

I had the kids at my house that night. so literally the first night she could she went out.

the next morning she was out for a brunch with her brother and his wife, then I had the kids and continued to move things. I complained to her about its not fair she is not around while I was moving things and looking after the kids.

Because of the work I did it got done.

When she finally showed up she helped. She was miserable so I don't know if she had sex with the guy or not or what happened. She was not happy though.

I was all business and got the job done, took the lead, pushed hard to finish. It had to be done by Monday.

There was no R talk, no crying. W cried at one point I pinched her finger with a box and she broke down say its too much work and she is sick of moving stuff that should have been thrown out two moves ago.

I was able to get out of the S and keep my race car and all the tools ect. At one point I was very happy to be able to keep it all. I was happy to have a garage so I can finally get back into racing. I was happy to set up my place how I want. I was in control. I could stay here as long as I want. I get to choose if she comes back in my life if it becomes an option.

Then there was also the quiet of an empty house. Kids not there and all by myself, knowing that I still love my W but we cannot be together was a sad moment.

I am planning on hiring an organizer to help go thorough all the boxes of stuff. And yes some is from past moves that were never opened. So W has given me all the baggage of the past to sift through.