You know where to message the dancing accountant and her tribe if you do. There is more than just V in the enclave. There are resources which I can't mention without going back on moderation.
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I hate that I live my life without being able to express emotions because, I am overreacting.
I would like a bigger explanation
I guess where I was going with this was my frustration over the years where when i had an opinion or felt a certain way about something, wife would minimize that with arguing it's validity or how important it was or if it was an overreaction to something.
since I typed this. wife and I somehow got into a conversation about this exact topic, she was talking about her parents and how annoying it was to her that both her parents basically disregarded or flat out argued with the others point of view, constantly...no matter what they were talking about.
I agreed that I though it was so very uncomfortable to listen to them all last weekend. she said something to the affect of she didn't understand why.
i said that it is not limited to just your folks. I have seen it with my folks, in laws families, my families, brothers sisters, work etc. I gave specific examples. Basically it amounted to the lack of respect for others opinions not only to be heard but validated. each of those examples, the person who was listening gave counter argument and other became defensive and boom. downward spiral.
I gave her a few specific examples with me and my mom and with work, Pre-validation, accepting that they have a right to have thier opinion and then validating it. if a counter was necessary I would do so but mostly not, because sure the sky could be orange to them...who am I to say it isn't
anyway, it was an odd conversation. I didn't go into explicit details on websites or anything, or give the catch words, just examples of how I interacted and she seemed to get what I was saying.
so we were ready to go to the gym and i left it at that. we will see if it sunk in
