I'll start by saying Im very sorry for the position you find yourself in. I think you are in the right place to save yourself.

Originally Posted By: qt4x11

-I am making her uncomfortable because I am raising my voice and yelling at her (if anything, I raised my voice but I was yelling at myself for being so stupid ‘Oh my god I can’t believe this is happening’)
-I ‘was standing in the bathroom door’ while i was talking to her. She felt that I might have been blocking her way and she felt threatened. (This is just unbelievable)
-I left my kid alone in the house (again. I am dumb. I made a huge mistake with this)


Here's my concern. You seem to be playing this game of collecting allies to try to say that you are right and your W is wrong. I am reading this like you want us to validate that you are "correct" or "justified" in your actions and that your wife is crazy. What you need to try to remember is that your wife has feelings and that they are not "wrong". If she feels cold, you cant say "no you dont"....that just doesnt make sense.

So if she says "I felt threatened", you cant possibly disagree. Just because you werent trying to be threatening doesnt mean she didnt feel threatened. I can see how she might feel that way; there was a larger, desperate, very loud, ranting person blocking the only exit to the room she was in.

For now, I will leave you with this:
Her perception is her reality.
There is no "right" or "wrong" with regards to feelings.