More importantly, the silver lining in ALL of this mess, is that you, Coconut, can do some soul searching and become the man you have always wanted to be--this sitch has made you more vulnerable than ever and is forcing you to look deep down within and be a better man. Maybe you would have never had to do that without this. Just a thought. -Blu
Originally Posted By: betterm
Blu, I'm so glad I read your message this morning. This, above, is what it's all about. Of all the pain, hurt, anger, worry, fear, etc... it's easy to miss the hidden egg, golden opportunity that's right in front of our eyes. And you're dead on, when we are married, happily/unhappily, we are constantly basing every single small decision with another person in our mind. How it will affect them, etc. This is our chance to dig deep, as you say, and figure out what it truly is we want to become in life. Who we want to be. What is our purpose?
