Thanks as ever Z. Recently when I copied different posts from my previous threads, a lot were yours. Thank you for this ongoing support. Strange you cannot find a post, because at the moment everything in all my threads is up on the board.

My fitness levels are not as good as I would like, but I manage to do stuff that fit people can do. I am generally tired and cannot shake it fully. But I do sport a few times a week even if I don't feel up to it. I have never regretted forcing myself to go!!

I don't dwell on such possible signs anymore. It was just a curiosity and as I don't share much anymore, I decided to see what others thought.

My W is free to do whatever she wants. I will be the lighthouse as best I can. If things slip further I can accept that but I may stop pretending to be a couple. If she wants out, she will get no resistance from me. If my boundaries are crossed I will act accordingly. I am definitely not forcing.

Thank you for the cheerleading.


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together