I asked WAW why she thought it was best for d7 to D. She didn't have an answer.
I know the impact on the kids is the most challenging for us LBS to handle. I do want to encourage that you refrain from asking WAW things like this. It is a fruitless question and a cheesless tunnel.
I have approached it as I would like to think that I would approach any other tragic situation that happens to people. By doing the best I can with what I have. I know that the statistics show the impact on children are negative, but I also know many well adjusted folks that grew up in a family where the parents divorced. So I focus in them and how they turned out.
I am not trying to minimize the pain that you feel poschan, I am just trying to offer the best option available for us. We need to stand up, be strong for our children, don't worry about the WAS, and be the best fathers we can be under the circumstances.
Read up on the Stockade paradox. This was recommended to me earl on in my sitch and has really been a point of balance for me. Let me know your thoughts once you read up on it and share how it may apply for your situation.
Our kids are our most precious things in life. We can still give them all we have, even if someone else chooses to chase what they think will make them happy.
Hugs. Lots and lots of hugs for those little ones.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
