The Unpleasantness

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Week 2 - 4 of separation (cont’d):

June 3rd is the day of our hearing. I am worried because - if my wife decides to have a hearing to make it a ‘permanent court order of protection’ I may not see my kids for up to 2 years, and it will go on a ‘background check’ which will affect my ability to look for a new job. I hire a lawyer to represent me just in case my wife decides to press the case.

Let me say this again. I SWEAR on my children, I have never lain a hand on that woman, and I have never verbally abused anyone in my life, much less my own family. The terms of the ‘temporary court order of protection’ are just ridiculous

-I was making her uncomfortable because I was raising my voice and yelling at her (if anything, I raised my voice but I was yelling at myself for being so stupid ‘Oh my god I can’t believe this is happening’)
-I ‘was standing in the bathroom door’ while i was talking to her. She felt that I might have been blocking her way and she felt threatened. (This is just unbelievable)
-I left my kid alone in the house (again. I am dumb. I made a huge mistake with this)

I basically have been prevented from seeing my kids for 3 weeks because I *raised my voice* and *stood in the bathroom doorway*. I am in no way shape or form an abusive guy. Whatever happens to me - I will go to my GRAVE believing that order was a ridiculous travesty of justice.

But I have to get a lawyer in case things go south (which they do - more on that later). Anyway, so my wife has been in communication with my sister in law - she told my sister in law she wants to work it out, but she doesn’t want to talk to me unless it is in marriage counseling - so I should go make a marriage counseling appointment so we can talk asap after the June 3rd date. I am overjoyed to hear this news, and I obtain a referral to a marriage counselor. I have a phone consultation with the counselor and make multiple appointments in a row so that we can begin to talk as soon as the temporary order is lifted. I text my brother - tell my wife I have done as she said and I’ve made multiple appointments with X counselor at X address on X dates. Here is his information. My brother sends her that information, she doesn’t reply. When she gets back from her trip to visit her relatives - she replies and says that she will not be able to make the marriage counseling appointments. This is in the few days leading up to our June 3rd hearing.