From all the things you've written it *does* feel to me like your W wants this to work out, and that's a blessing for sure. Take my and everyone else's advice with a grain of salt, you know your sitch best and we're here to support you.
I hope you navigate this and both come out very happy in the end.
Acc
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015