Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 2

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This kind of passive aggressive behavior infuriates me. He refuses IC, MC and anything that would have to do with reconciling. He acts as if I am the one who cheated and he's the one who needs time to rebuild trust. Man, I am getting angry again just thinking about this. He should be on his knees begging for another chance. Nope, he's all wrapped up in his delicate feelings to be bothered to fix what he broke.

Sara, anger is a natural part of the process we go through and anger channeled for good can strengthen us and move us towards good things.
Be aware of the type of anger you are feeling. ( see Vanillas thread on the types of anger). Avoid the destructive types, channel the appropriate types.

Now I share this next bit of advice as your posts have the flavor of much ruminating. Rumination can also have its place, but it is something that can quickly become a bad habit if one does not pay attention. I share this, because I am seeing so many threads with so many posts that are ruminating on the hurt, anger, pain and despair. The threads with these flavors I have noticed are by LBS that seem to get trapped into the negative for a long period of time.
In contrast I have read other threads where the postings contain some of the same,but the majority is focused on action, positive thoughts and ones self. Check out bigybiz' thread. That guy really gets Dbing .

My point is, you have made some great progress in a short amount of time and I want to encourage you to balance out the rumination of the pain and your husbands actions or lack there of, with your positive thoughts and actions.
IMHO we are what we think and these threads contain what we think. We can control the thoughts and when we focus towards the positive we can overcome the bad.

Keep your chin up, revel in your successes professionally, personally and most important as a strong woman and mother.

How are your kids doing? What things have you done with them lately that have brought you peace and joy?

(((Sara)))

Maintain your focus on you and let him fix himself or be left behind