I agree I can't control her. We haven't talked about the OM at all. She does everything "secretly" and I see her clues she leaves behind. Thats the only way I know its still going on.

I agree with Tx that nothing good happens in my R as long as there is a 3rd party involved. Helpless feeling.

I keep myself busy a lot with trying to collect information that will help me get 50/50 custody.

Friday she told me she retained a lawyer and should have papers done in a couple weeks.

M:13 years
Known her for 30 years!
Me: 40
W: 38
Kids: 17, 11, 7, 7
BD: 02/07/2016
Found EA: 3/22/2016
Told of 2 PA's: 4/8/16
Got Papers: 6/15/16