This kind of passive aggressive behavior infuriates me. He refuses IC, MC and anything that would have to do with reconciling. He acts as if I am the one who cheated and he's the one who needs time to rebuild trust. Man, I am getting angry again just thinking about this. He should be on his knees begging for another chance. Nope, he's all wrapped up in his delicate feelings to be bothered to fix what he broke.
I went through similar stuff. My W refused MC because I was the one that needed "fixing" even though she was the one in an EA. Not that I didn't have some fixing to do, the difference was that I was ready and willing to do the fixing and the W was not. I know from first-hand experience that it is extremely irritating to be in that situation.
I hope you can remain cool, calm and collected. I couldn't always remain that way.
Like Forest Grumpy (aka doodler) says, "Crazy is as crazy does."
