Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 2

[PsySara]

That makes sense. I know my H is in pain and confused. It's just incredibly frustrating that he is so consumed with guilt/confusion/pain that he is paralyzed. So I am doing all this work and making myself a better person. He, on the other hand, appears to be standing still. While I am willing to wait awhile for him to feel safe again I am not willing to wait forever. I cannot stay in a marriage where I don't have a husband. Right now he is some guy who hurt me worse than any other human being. While I was in my darkest moments he was aloof, cold and sometimes even cruel. He still refuses to re-commit to our marriage and instead waits on me to make the hard decisions. His very words were, "You do what you have to, I need time and space. I don't dislike you but I don't want to be near you."

This kind of passive aggressive behavior infuriates me. He refuses IC, MC and anything that would have to do with reconciling. He acts as if I am the one who cheated and he's the one who needs time to rebuild trust. Man, I am getting angry again just thinking about this. He should be on his knees begging for another chance. Nope, he's all wrapped up in his delicate feelings to be bothered to fix what he broke.