I don't know much about MLC and I constantly trip over myself when I DB. I assume your wife is still in an EA and possible PA; is that correct? I also assume you're still separated?
I guess I just don't feel like I've been around long enough to provide valuable feedback. What I get from reading your posts is that you want your wife back, but it doesn't really sound like you have deep feelings of love for her. And again, I could be reading too much into your posts.
Do you really want her back or are you just looking for an explanation of her behavior?
