Zuess, thanks again for the vote of confidence. For some reason today I am feeling anxious and nervous. I have made myself a list of things to do. Including contacting lawyer, open checking account. It makes it feel more real. I notice her drifting away more within the last couple days also. Possibly she is seeing that I am giving less to trying to make it work etc. Going dark, detaching etc. I really like your posts about redefining your R with your XW. We will have to parent our son for the next 5 years, and work together during the D. I think we have had a good R for the past 21 years, but lets face it, D will bring out the worst in people. I want to be the best I can, but not sacrifice the things I worked for so hard, retirement, good credit. It could all go south, but I will have to rebuild no matter what. Yes the fear of that thought is getting to me today I guess. But I too know that I can do this, and learn to handle almost anything. Thanks again for the support you guys, I really need it.
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
