Hi halo, I forgot how long have you been divorced??? well, maybe going "gray" may just be the ticket. and when said that we are playing games by only one set of rules, boy ain't that the truth, you really hit that one!! I think they ask us where we are because they are afraid of loosing us-maybe-I hope or they just want their cake and eat it too. When you ex about where he is going, or who with--does he tell you??? I have asked a few times, and I get "its none of your business". Why do they continue to go out with us like we still are a couple???? has anyone figured this out????