Right now, I'm not doing it to be a nice guy, I'm doing it because I had offered and she said yes. If I back off that now, I think that would be looked at as me being bitter.
I feel like I shouldn't back down on my word. I'll help and when we're done, I'll get her key. She's def not expecting that, but she will not be welcome here after Saturday.
Well, I think you are being a nice-guy by offering your services......so, my piece of advice is to STOP OFFERING TO HELP HER! Yes, it would make you look like a complete jerk if you backed out, now, from helping her move. So learn from it and don't offer anymore assistance.
Are you helping her move her stuff into her new place? What if OM and his W show up to help, too?
NO, I am not helping her move into her new place. Her father will also be helping. We get along great, so that's a non-issue. Actually, he kind of sides with me in all of this, but of course has support for his daughter.
After we finish up at my house, I'll politely ask for her key, and that's that. I will offer no more assistance with anything. I will initiate zero contact after that.
I do know that my SS (her S, 18yrs old) will be helping her at the new place because he works and won't be available til later. As far as anyone else, that's not a concern of mine. Once she is out, I'll better be able to focus on myself.
