Thanks for the comments guys. Lol at "Who pooped in my pants/Who $hit on my life". That's definitely where my WW is at mentally right now. "Why are all these bad things happening to me that are in no way even remotely tied to my earlier choices/behaviors?"

I'm toying with the idea of picturing my WW as Married to the OM. Like we're just roommates and I see some potential for a future R there, but right now she is in a damaged R with someone else and pretty messed up herself so she's off limits.

If she ends up leaving the other broken R, and doing some work to improve herself, maybe we could see where things go but until then I am just trying to stay friendly from a safe distance to avoid the drama. And wouldn't want to move too quickly and become her rebound.

I think that might help me adopt the proper mental stance.


Me, WW - Upper 30s
BD - Apr 1 2016
EA - Apr 7 2016 (discovered; ongoing for months; did not confront right away)
Confronted wife about EA - May 17
Wife sent NC email to OM - July 11