I was thinking as I've been reading a lot of other peoples threads. It seems to me like there really is a difference between a WW and WAW. It seems like when a OM is involved that you have to drop the rope, use LRT, things of this magnitude. Because every situation I read it only begins to change when the LBS uses these techniques. Once the OM is out of the picture it seems you can have different strategy, but as long as there is an OP then you can not and must not treat them as your spouse.
Just some observations I noticed


M 37 W 30
S 7
Together 10 years
Married 9 years
BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day)
I moved to apartment 1/11/13
W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13
Peicing: 6/3/13
Reconciled: 7/2013
BD2: 4/20/16
still working on it