to speak to your not wanting to associate with "divorcers" theories based upon your values....
I just want to give you another perspective, as always. I did not divorce my ex, I did not cheat on him, he cheated on me. I wanted to save it, but that was not an option. However, there was a good chance I would have ended up being the "divorcer" some where along the line. I was treated awfully. He refused to treat me good. I do not think I come close to comparing with a drunk driver, or a slave trader, as the examples you gave. There are many kind of "divorcers" out there. Some who give the BS of "you aren't making me happy, buh-bye kind" and the kind who are in a marriage who try so hard to make it work, but only one is doing the work, and the other couldn't give a crap, because being married in their mind keeps them entitled to never work on it, and to not consider their spouse. I don't think it's really fair to generalize and compare these people to those who have the values of a racist or a killer.
JellyB and Vanilla have said what I have been trying to say. You are putting divorce above love and compassion. Divorce wins in your book. I'm sad to see divorce is winning. But I hope it's only for right now.
