Its not too late!

[mylittlehalo]

nitaf, slowly, suzyblue, growing.

{{{{to all}}}}

Thanks for ya'lls input on this difficult turn of events.
I agree that XH might need his time to collect his thoughts and spread his wings in order to make "our" life together the best it can possibly be, but the lack of communication is killing me.

Thursday while on vacation XH and I went to the casino to gamble. He was so attentive, sweet, and on the long drive home we talked about us and tons of non R talk. He is giving me such mixed signals it is confusing. When we got back to my house he told me several times how much fun he had with me, how he enjoyed the day with me and cannot wait to spend time with me again. Then the next day I did not hear from him until late that evening. When we talked that evening when he was having dinner with a friend of his (which also knows me). His friend got on the phone with me trying to describe how he knows me, the things that the three of us used to do etc. Xh got back on the phone, I told him I was not going to go out in the bad weather that night and wished him a good night. Saturday I went shopping for a new outfit for that evening, it was his aunts B-Day party, at the party I think he got a little upset because I was hanging around his cousins and not up and under his butt. I dont know, just so very confused. I feel like he wants to do what he wants to do when he wants to do it but he also expects me kiss his rear end when he graces me with his presence. The way he acts when we are together is not the way a single man (by choice) would act. I have to admit that since I have told him and shown him (most important) that I am supportive of the time and space he feels like he needs he has been more open about his plans and where abouts.
XH's behavior is so wishy washy. One thing I do know is that XH is hanging out with single friends of his, which we all know controls our urges to be in a committed R. I am giving him his space, keeping myself busy with other friends and other activities but the urge to be with him is still very strong. I believe if things continue on the path they are going we will be having the dating rules talk pretty soon.
Keeping my distance is helping some but having the feeling all my efforts are waisted is discouraging. All I can do now is pray, continue Db'ing, lean on you guys more than ever, have patience and understanding.