Actually, I think my H's waywardness might go back further still, beyond 2009.
I remember that he was working on a very particular project in early 2007 (which is why I know the date and the year of this).
I remember meeting all of the colleagues he was working with one evening. Up to that point, whenever I met people he w as working with they'd be like 'I'm so glad to meet you, I've heard so much about you'.
One this particular project, this one night, one girl gave me the weirdest handshake I've ever had from one of his colleagues. I knew instantly there was something up with her and she liked him.
Anyway, fast forward a few weeks, and H texts me to let me know he's on his way home from a night out one evening. I wait up for him. Nothing, he doesn't appear for an hour, when he had only been 15 minutes walk away I try and call, but his phone is permanently engaged. I try to text him, no answer.
For some reason, I walk to the front window and look out. He's sitting in his car,chatting on his phone.
When he gets back upstairs to our house, I ask him why he was in the car and who he was chatting to.
It was that girl, and he tells me she was confiding in him. It was the 'my boyfriend doesn't understand me' line.
I tell him I feel uncomfortable with that, both the conversation and the fact the he had been sitting in the car rather than in our flat.
He tells me he didn't want to disturb me. I say that I feel that that is an excuse.
He doesn't accept that. So I change tack, and ask him if he doesn't think it's a bit weird that she is talking to him about this, and not to her girlfriends or mum? He never answers.
And we never reached an agreement about this incident. He still maintains his version of events and has always refused to consider any part of my version.
Was that an EA? It's seeming like it at this point.
That was in early 2007. That's when the waywardness started kicking in I reckon. Wow...
