Natus,
Correct me if I read your sitch wrongly, your W has promised NC with OM. Has she carried out her promise? Is there any way to check?

If there is no indication that she has resumed contact with OM, is there a reason why you would want to go dim?

Are you in the piecing but not quite stage?

You can call me Dory/ Grl.

As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"

It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.