To the Ww, everyone and anyone is at fault but them. Why should they be blamed for wanting what their hearts want? When in the fog, nothing else matters but their wants.
I can sense your frustration (and Cherry's) too at your Hs not pulling their weight. I may be wrong but would a come kitty kitty approach be more suitable now?
Totally agree though they must be aware of your boundaries.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
