Emotions don't follow a linear path. There is a lot of adversity ahead. But you can handle it.
My IC once said people aren't afraid of bad things happening. They're afraid of the emotions they will feel if those bad things happen, and that they won't be able to handle it.
As I've gotten through this I've learned I can handle almost anything. Doesn't mean I want to, but I know I can. Amazingly that means I don't have to live in fear anymore. I can strive for what I want freely without feeling anxious about what might happen.
You can do this.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15