Hi Kyler. Did you read all of Cadets homework in one of the first posts you would have got ?
Your W has to believe your done for her to even start to realise her true sitch. As you say , as long as she thinks your still waiting , she's free to explore other avenues because Kyler is plan B
It's only when you detach from the outcome of your sitch , W will accept your done.
A favourite phrase on here is ' fake it until you make it '.
In my sitch W is gone 17 months and only three weeks ago she told me she still thought she would be home one day I haven't called or text her since she left and every attempt of R talk by her I shot down ( to the point of several on this board telling me I was going to far ) yet she still thought she could come home
My point is , W has to truly believe that your ok if she doesn't come home and then let her make her choice without that safety net
