Wiley, again you have very valid points that I have not thought of. Expecially this one.
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So, again, it all comes down to how he feels about having her pretty much expunged from his life once this house deal is closed. He'll do what it takes to turn the page and leave her in the dust, or he won't...bottom line.

I have thought all day about what you wrote and I have finally decided...
I am actually relieved and some what pleased all this is going to happen way before "WE get our house and live together fulltime". I would really hate it if he or I ended up resenting the fact that "we" did not end our prior ties before we were tied together. Make sense?
Speaking of prior ties...
I have told all of you how XH is acting strange when we are apart. Not really strange just distant. Any way, I called the hospital when I left work yesterday just to check on SIL & nephew, did not realize Xh was still there, Xh answers the phone and sounded pleased to hear from me. After we chat about the baby and SIL I tell him "Well honey, I'm glad I got a chance to talk to you because I am on my way to Xboyfriends house, He has agreed to sign that paper so I am going to file the rest of the paperwork with the courts Friday. Thank god all my crap will be taken care of then." he said "Baby, thats great, I am happy to hear that". We also talked about my mom. I don't remember if I journaled about all of mothers day weekend. Well long story short, my mom was rushed to the ER that friday because of chest pains, she was not released until the following Tuesday. She is doing much better now, had an appt with cardiologist yesterday and was catching XH up on that sitch. We talked for a few more minutes about a lot of nothing then I let him go. I went to Xbfrnds house, he signed the paper he needed to sign He told me I looked exhausted, "GEE thanks" I thought and he invited me to stay for dinner. I stayed, we talked and laughed, It was a nice break from the norm. Talked to him about the issues at hand right now. He gave me some good advise and I went home. XH called later that night, I was in the shower so my mom told him I would call him back. When I called him back we talked for a while and he was very very sweet.
I think with my none needy attitude and with the space I am giving him, yet he does know I am here if he needs me, things are working out.

Halo Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect. It means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections.