On another note, what do you guys do when thoughts of the OW/OM come flooding into your head? Typically, I know when it's happening, and I try stopping them, but the methods of stopping them are just distractions and temporary for me, eventually they come back full force, and that's when I have it very tough. The OW was also a good friend of mine, so for me it was like a double betrayal. I also have this lingering fear that they will end up together in the future...but I guess realistically, that would never be a good relationship.. Anyway, any tips that have worked for anyone hear? I'd love to hear some.
Hope everyone continues to hang in there. So thankful for this forum.
Thinking about the OM/OW is where the pit in my stomach turns and I can literally puke. But....that has lessened over time as my heart is starting to harden in that realm. Over time, it may start to lessen for you.
It's hard no hiding this fact. But then I think about all the drama and incidents my STBX caused day to day and that the OM will be thrown into this vortex sooner than later and it gives me a certain calm. A calm that if she wasn't willing to work on these things with me and fix them...now....her drama filled life will only increase with the OM. It may be a fun whirlwind romance now.....but over time.....good luck. That it was a good friend is nothing that I have expereinced so can't comment except that is not a friend.
_________________________ Me-48 Spouse-WAW 52 Married for 10 years D7 ILYBNILWY 7/15 Suspect EA/PA 12/15 No confirmation/denial She files 1/2016 Working towards the Big D ...still in progress....
