So just got back from the day/night at the wedding and I found it tough in a couple of places, the ceremony was rough as it made me think of all the vows my W broke and the first dance really choked me up too.
All in all apart from a couple of blips I'm pleased to announce I had a really good day and kept myself busy.
So while at the wedding yesterday I managed to inadvertently agree to quite a big long term goal. A close friend of mine and his partner are going to Australia next October to visit family and attend a wedding and they've invited me along. Without a moment's hesitation I agreed and fully intend to follow it through.
So while at the wedding yesterday I managed to inadvertently agree to quite a big long term goal. A close friend of mine and his partner are going to Australia next October to visit family and attend a wedding and they've invited me along. Without a moment's hesitation I agreed and fully intend to follow it through.
Well put another shrimp on the barbie! That sounds like a fun opportunity kyle. Australia has always been on the top of my list of places that I would love to travel to.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
I'm just going to try and enjoy it while it lasts. I'm under no illusions that I'm probably going to have some tough days ahead of me but I need to take the rough with the smooth.
I have been thinking about something my W said to a friend the other night, it was something along the lines of "I'm not being big headed but I know he still loves me". I can't help but think that all the while she is under that impression she thinks she's got as long as she likes to test the waters and see if the grass is greener.
I've decided that the best course of action is to completely detach and focus on me and my children. Maybe if she loses that safety net of knowing I'm still in love with her and she starts to questions my feelings it might just spark something inside of her.
Hi Kyler. Did you read all of Cadets homework in one of the first posts you would have got ?
Your W has to believe your done for her to even start to realise her true sitch. As you say , as long as she thinks your still waiting , she's free to explore other avenues because Kyler is plan B
It's only when you detach from the outcome of your sitch , W will accept your done.
A favourite phrase on here is ' fake it until you make it '.
In my sitch W is gone 17 months and only three weeks ago she told me she still thought she would be home one day I haven't called or text her since she left and every attempt of R talk by her I shot down ( to the point of several on this board telling me I was going to far ) yet she still thought she could come home
My point is , W has to truly believe that your ok if she doesn't come home and then let her make her choice without that safety net
Yeah I have read it all but I think it's taken a while for it all to sink in if I'm honest.
At first I thought that the whole idea of basically showing I wasn't interested seemed counterproductive to getting to come back but it makes the most sense now.
It's funny because I can now pick up on the games her and her sister are playing too. Only today her sister tagged my W in a photo on facebook and was gushing about how beautiful she was and I just had to laugh it all off. It seems like it a response to all the wedding photos of me that's been put all over facebook today.
Do we think my W is playing games by giving across this perfect life persona on facebook? It takes 1 little facebook post to get me back in a rubbish place mentally
