Quote: I know this man loves me, I feel in my heart that we are going to spend forever together but it does not keep me from thinking she (OW) is going to do everything in her power to make sure this does not happen. Is there a magic spell to ward off unwanted people?
Its all going to come down to how your XH handles her when the house deal is closed. If he LOVES you the RIGHT way, he knows that maintaining contact with her is detrimental to moving things forward with you, so you will soon see what happens. If he simply ignores her lame attempts at coming between the two of you, and takes the steps necessary to send the message that he's done with her, then eventually, she fades off, just may take some time. Off the record, in general, the more she tries to come between the two of you, the more that logically will entrench your cause, because that will push even further into your non needy and clingy arms.. . Its when she simply moves on after the house closing, stops contacting him, tells him good luck with his R with you, and continues to see other men, is when you have a problem, IF he hasn't deep down let go of her yet...So, again, it all comes down to how he feels about having her pretty much expunged from his life once this house deal is closed. He'll do what it takes to turn the page and leave her in the dust, or he won't...bottom line. I think he knows where his bread is buttered, so, don't worry about it too much..
anyway, you of course, know how to handle the sitch and that is, NEVER bringing up the OW unless he does, acting confident and strong and SURE of yourself and the foundation of the R the two of you are building, (rather than looking over your shoulder for signs of the OW looking to crash the party..) and not TRYING TO FIX too much unless he confides in you..He knows you're concerned about his welfare while this house thing is going on, let him come to you about it if he needs to vent..
. Its when she simply moves on after the house closing, stops contacting him, tells him good luck with his R with you, and continues to see other men, is when you have a problem, IF he hasn't deep down let go of her yet...So, again, it all comes down to how he feels about having her pretty much expunged from his life once this house deal is closed. He'll do what it takes to turn the page and leave her in the dust, or he won't...bottom line. I think he knows where his bread is buttered, so, don't worry about it too much.. 
